I'm very open with the few temporary cosmetic things I have enjoyed. They are FUN! And I wish more women realized that there is no reason to feel ashamed for taking hold of how you present yourself to others.
Feeling bomb about yourself so you can focus on changing the world. > Letting your insecurities hold you back from being yourself and ultimately helping other people.
I’m also convinced that there’s no reason to hoard information, connections, or insight -- especially with other women! It's exhausting to view women as competition. I have been on both ends of making silly little things (such as eyelashes) a point of comparison. I'm so over it, guys. Besides, it's way more fun to share in fun, feminine things rather than experience them alone. When I kept getting questions on my Instagram about them, I decided to answer the most frequently asked ones here! So, read all my answered questions about my eyelash extensions experience so that (if you're thinking about them) you can get them too, and we can woo and awe at each other's fab lashes!
Question 01: Do they hurt? Can you get them wet?
No! The process is painless. You will enter some kind of room at a hair/nail/beauty salon, lay on a reclining chair or bed, and simply relax. The cosmetologist uses two pairs of tweezer-like tools to place one eyelash at a time on one of your own lashes. Remember that someone is moving very closely to your eyes, which is not a common occurrence for most people, so the first few minutes take some getting used to. Before the actual eyelash part starts, most cosmetologists will tape your lower lashes down or cover them will gel pads which will cause your eyes to water, but they don't hurt. This is to keep the glue from sticking to your lower lashes and protect your under eye skin. I will say, every once in a while, there will be an accidental tug that will be uncomfortable, but this only happens to me approximately 3 times per visit.
You can get them wet after 24 hours. (So make sure you shower right before!) Mine get wet all the time in the shower and when I wash my face. I have even swam in the ocean with waves crashing on me and they endured.
Questions 02: Where do I go to get them done?
The #1 thing that will make or break your eyelash extensions experience will be who/where you go to get them. While they are offered almost everywhere with beauty services now, I have been to 3 very different places and had very different experiences. There are 3 things you want to ask before you book your appointment. Trust me, it will save you discomfort, time, and dissatisfaction. Learn from my mistakes.
1.) Ask how long your cosmetologist has been doing eyelash extensions. The first place I went to, where I got my whole set done originally, was a professional salon with with very well trained stylists. The experience was so amazing that I fell asleep while most of it was being done (awkwardly sleeping with my mouth open and everything!).
2.) Ask if they use tape or gel pads for your lower lashed. I know the thought doesn't seem enjoyable. But you know what's even less enjoyable? Having an eyelash pulled off your under eye because they didn't use tape and now it's stuck to your face. Yeah. I would know. The second place I went to for a fill was a nail salon and tape/gel pads were not used on me. Suddenly, the eye watering was far more welcomed.
3.) Ask if they use a sanitary bed. The third place I went to for a fill was a small business owner. Rather than laying on a technician type bed that you would see in a dentist's office or salon, I laid on a cot with a big fluffy pink blanket on it. The fluffy pink blanket was cute and fit her brand, but as I was laying there all I could think about was how many people laid (and sweat) there since it was washed. The lack of professionalism added to the not awesome experience.
Question 03: Do you feel fake?
My response? I feel empowered! Do you know how long I would spend putting mascara on everyday (and then taking it off)? A lot! And even after all that wasted time, I wasn't happy with how they looked. Now, I spend zero time working with my eyelashes. And because I like them so much, I have been wearing a lot less make up. (Cue Beyonce: "I woke up like this.") Eliminating the distraction of eyelashes has opened me up to be more productive and focus on things that truly matter. Plus, it feels good to wake up feeling good! And if anyone has ever made you feel ashamed for wanting to feel that feeling, let me tell you how silly that is. Boldly take matters into your own hands, girl! We don't have time to fret about what we don't like about ourselves. You have too many businesses to start or degrees to collect or people to influence! So, if something is bothering you, do something about it. Then spend your energy chasing your dreams, investing in relationships, and bettering the world!
With relentless ambition + passion I live intentionally to take my dreams from plans to reality + empower other women to do the same. I'm a Trades of Hope founder, public speaker, and designer living in Washington, D.C. When I'm not following fashion trends, catching airplanes, or playing with my redhead pup, I'm offering up fashion shortcuts, life lessons I'm learning, and free wallpapers to remind you of how much you've got this.